of military personnel) To assemble, each person manning (attending to) his station, prepared for the departure of an aircraft, ship, etc. ( Compare man ("supply with staff; take up position to operate").) Managing up is the conscious attempt to build a productive working relationship with one’s manager by creating common ground in terms of working preferences and priorities. This involves having conversations about each party’s communication styles, meeting preferences, and short- and long-term goals. It also includes communicating successes and initiating moments of constructive conflict on occasion. manspreading: …are set to go up in the subways next month." Advice to younger women: Practise manning up: "Manspreading is certainly bad manners in a crowded subway– and so is other… Van der Kolk defines humans as powerfully resilient and resourceful creatures, able to move beyond the challenging events of our lives and heal. But to do so, men must collaborate, connect, and share our stories, no matter how difficult they may be to tell. This review is based on an ARC of Manning Up which I received courtesy of NetGalley and the publisher (West 44 Books).

There’s been a trend in recent years to allow some individual contributors to advance to managerial levels while still retaining a greater focus on the technical side and less on people management. Play, Everyday: I’m not talking about Playstation or X Box here, I mean play. Indulge your imagination and your curious heart. Playing keeps us alive, creative, present, and youthful. These rules take hold early in our lives. Boys 4 and 5 years old are told to shake it off, man up, don’t be a crybaby, and, worst of all, don’t be a girl. This is because the Man Box devalues any form of emotional expression traditionally deemed to be feminine. A devastating result of this anti-feminine bias is that women, gays, and trans people face epidemic levels of bullying, rape, misogyny, homophobia, and violence. Advocate for Women: Standing up for your mama, sister, and niece, that’s the easy part. But what about that stranger your friend is ogling right now?spoiler alert ** I received a complimentary e-copy of this book on NetGalley in exchange for my review. What’s your take on what you just read? Comment below or write a response and submit to us your own point of view or reaction here at the red box, below, which links to our submissions portal. Add to this epidemic of emotional isolation the physical impact of unresolved trauma in men’s lives, and the combined effects are devastating. In The Body Keeps the Score, psychiatrist and PTSD researcher Bessel van der Kolk explores his decades-long work treating victims of catastrophic trauma. In 1978, he joined the Boston Veterans Administration Clinic as a staff psychiatrist. There, working with veterans of the Vietnam War, van der Kolk began to see the patterns that mark our modern-day understanding of trauma.

It was a difficult day on Saturday and ultimately it should’ve been two or three-nil to us at half-time. Frustratingly, there is some good stuff around Manning Up's neglected fringes. Surely the real story here is not that young men are silly (whom does that surprise?), but rather that, in the US, female graduates under 35 now outnumber and out-earn male ones. Or that parents in America have begun to favour daughters. I had no idea that things had gone so far and would love to read a different book explaining why.At the same time, don’t manage up only when a moment of conflict arises. Hays recommends thinking about three questions during one-on-ones:

Support the LGBT Community: We’re so much better than belittling others for who they love or how they identify their gender. Managing up takes effort, but, as Kellan Elliott-McCrea, vice president of engineering at Dropbox, pointed out in a 2019 talk, it’s a wholly unique beast in technical roles. One key reason: what Elliott-McCrea called “the myth of the apolitical engineer.” That’s the tendency among some software engineers to insist upon a “hyper-rational” approach to their work — “letting the work speak for itself” and scoffing at what they perceive to be office politics, which might include managing up. Communicate: Openly, humbly, vulnerably, and constructively. Even when you’re scared. Even when it’s really hard. It’s always better than the alternative.Say “I Love You”: Say it to your male friends, female buddies, family, or whoever is most special to you in your life. Let them know how much they mean to you. You never know when it might be your last chance to do so. idiomatic) To "be a man about it"; to do the things a man is traditionally expected to do, such as taking responsibility for the consequences of one's actions, displaying bravery or toughness in the face of adversity, providing for one's family, etc. ( Compare man ("brace oneself, steel oneself").) The nature of software engineering makes managing up difficult in other ways, too. It can seem like the technological equivalent of what Germans called “Gesamtkunstwerk,” or total artwork” — that is, it involves many mediums, which can be a challenge to synthesize into a cohesive whole. Software engineering is “incredibly complex,” requiring expert collaboration, communication, coordination, planning, prioritization and focus, Elliott-McCrea said. That “entangled” nature is another reason managing up in technical environments is unique. But then this is her recurring problem: she is good on theories, lamentable on proof. Donor-insemination clinics, for instance, are said to contribute to men's sense of domestic redundancy. Yet how often do single women actually use donated sperm? Hymowitz doesn't say. It is reported that modern women let men know that they "want chocolates on Valentine's Day or, better yet, a weekend in Paris". But do they? That is the cliche; we are just expected to accept it unexamined. Manning Up is a hi-low book, meaning that it contains a storyline that is highly intriguing, yet is not very demanding for the reader, making it perfect for reluctant or struggling readers. (This book's publisher, West 44 Books, specializes in this audience.) Personally, I wanted something light and easy to get through, something to keep my mind at attention. I thought the book had good content, but just wanted it to be more in depth. In my opinion, it is a "just okay" read-- 2 stars. Please, however, remember that I (someone who likes longer, in-depth reads) am not the main audience for this book.